Like everything else in this world certain things have a certain appeal to people. To me personally anime is more than just an "over the top anime", it's much more than that depending on what genre I'm watching.
let me take Clannad Afterstory for example, that anime truly changed my view on life in general, it makes me appreciate life, friendship and family more. the effect is similar to reading a very good book/playing an extremely good game or watching an amazing movie. It's simply just an entertainment purpose so there's not much to get about it, hope this clears it up a bit.
I can't believe I actually made a serious post.
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